Loneliness is an
Essential friend
On our way
To bravery.
Ibn Arabi
I got to confess I had committed many mistakes through my life, a few very costly, and what is worst, the most grave with no remedy!
As we age, we slowly, or suddenly we realize, this fact, and grieve us, what to do?
When you do not even have the chance to ask for forgiveness, or do nothing to repair them, your heart grows heavy with pain, and despair, and we only have a tool in repentance, and prayer if you are a believer, those who are not, I wonder what they do? What their hearts tell them to do, and how can they lift the heavy weight of guilt from their hearts, I guess despair, pain, and tears and regret are common to our Human condition, and also our burden.
To have a conscience it’s good, but it would had being better not to acquire it after the fact from our mistakes.
The acquisition from mankind consciousness, no doubt a good thing, since at least set us on a straight path, not of those who err, and fail. The burden of being Human, is to be moral, and distinguish good, from wrong, or even evil.
We toil through our life trying to avoid the wrong path that leads us to the way of despair, and sorrow. And on it we discover who we are, our many weaknesses, and reflect that we need to be better, to not incurring in the same ways who bring us repentance and sorrow.
There’s no shame in asking for forgiveness, not to do it, just make us more loaded with hopelessness, bitterness, and misery. So asking for forgiveness it’s the most beautiful thing for a heavy heart.
Let’s all walk, on the beautiful path, ahead of us, and do not go stray, or lose our way.
And if you care, and are a believer pray for Grace:
“Lord, I ask that you give me the strength to forgive. I ask that you place on my heart a spirit of forgiveness. I know this person said (he or she) was sorry. (He or she) knows what happened was wrong.
I repent also from my mistakes, and those who I aggravated, and injured, or suffered because of me, in any way, or form.”
Kone, Krusos, Kronos 
Great post, dear Mr. Brigido! Golden words so necessary in our uneasy times. 🙂
Thank you Maria!
There’s two ways we do mistakes by ignoring what we are doing, and the worst by doing them in purpose, those are the worst.
We need to avoid mistakes, or at least stay at least in the side of the ignorant, and repent immediately, as we realize it, and ask for forgiveness.
True, dear Mr. Brigido, but it is impossible to live a life without making them. The point is to make conclusions even if you cannot change anything afterwards. 🙂
Yes, you are right, Maria, over here, we like to say; making a mess of your life, we learn the hard way. 🤷♂️
Nice prayer at the end. 🙂
Thank you dear, and I love the fact, you are making churros, yummy! 😋
Doing my best, and thanks. 🙂
Hi. It’s not easy being human. That’s for sure. Our emotions often get in the way, and sometimes we make bad decisions as a result of that. One thing I believe is that every day has the potential for being a learning experience, no matter how old we are.
Yes, we call it the school of life, and we learn the hard way.
Thank you for your comment.
Lifted from something I wrote many years back regarding the message from a Japanese book in which a group of precocious high school boys end up befriending an elderly man who has lived his life alone ever since returning from the WWII.
“In Japanese society, apologies are frequent, but always governed by the formality of norms-of-behavior. They are seen as an honorable duty, and forgiveness is neither demanded, nor expected. …actions have a consequence that no amount of regret can change.”
I think I grew up with that Japanese ethic. And I’m not a religious person, so I’m not sure there’s actually any higher power to which to appeal. So I simply own my mistakes, accumulating them over time like scars, or tattoos, or a memories. That’s not to say that in the light of hindsight, that there’s nothing I wouldn’t go back and change. But the very best that anyone can do with the past is to learn from it.
Just yesterday, I read post that had these words on it (really):
“Don’t live your life regretting yesterday. Live your life so that tomorrow you won’t regret today.”
The power of living is in each moment.
Sincere good wishes to you, my friend.
I agree with your views, and try to do that, as best as I can, but unfortunately, as in my case a certain big mistake in my life keep me facing it again, I will say at least once a month, it will be of bad taste, to talk about it, but it was the inspiration for my post.
As the famous song says:
“Regrets, I’ve had a few
But then again too few to mention”
On the whole the worst injustice, it’s not what I had suffered from others, and had a few times, but I really wish I could have been better then, but I was not.
I try to forget, but it’s harder to forgive myself, since I had no excuse, but my selfishness at the time.
And that pains me.
One of the reasons that I’ve pondered human motives enough to conclude that we’re essentially driven by fear, loneliness and boredom is to try and make sense of poor decisions. Acts of greed, power, ego, waste… I think they’re all reduceable to our evolutionarily selected compulsions toward survival of the species: that we stay alive long enough to reproduce, that we seek groups and companionship, and that we not waste 20% of our daily caloric intake on an idle brain.
Pretty dry, I know. But it perhaps provides a foundation for a kind of self-forgiveness in that this is all that we were provided with by nature. That we can learn by experiencing the limits of our own drives is in itself pretty impressive. I deeply regret cutting the strings on my mother’s piano when I was ten-years old. If that was the only great regret in my life, then I would be an extraordinarily wise and blessed individual. Nevertheless, I’m glad that I chose to treat my mom with respect afterward, even if it didn’t change the past. We learn… And if there’s a purpose to our existence, then I suspect that’s what it is.
You were pretty naughty with your Mom piano, dear, I kind of smile for your prank, good thing you treated your Mom well after, at least life give you the chance to do so.
Sometimes we can’t, because when we realize our injustice, the person no longer is there to hear our apology.
It’s human to make mistakes and I’ve hurt many over the years. To forgive and be forgiven does make a difference.
Yes, it does, what weights my hearth, it’s when we realize the wrongs we did, and the little we can do to repair them.
Thank you Rosaliene.
Just the fact that you have written this article speaks a thousand words. I often find the one who acts from the heart, as you do, has the greatest reward.
Thank you for your kindness Carolyn, how can we find rest, or peace, if we have been unjust?
Thank you very much, Brogido, for your deep thoughts and I certainly agree with you that at least we should become aware of our mistakes and ask for forgiveness. On the other side I am also convinced that we all make too many mistakes and that we should also forgive ourselves for having committed them and try to avoid them in the future.
All the very best:)
Certainly I agree with you, but sometimes it’s difficult to do so, and we cannot but reflect we did wrong.
I just visit your site and left a comment, about books I am reading.
Also hope your Husband health may improve.
This morning my eldest brother call me to tell me my only sister is on her last legs, she is in agony and doctors had given up on her, my brother thinks it will not take too long for her to die, she is only 67 years old.
So here we stand.
Thank you for your comment, Martina.
Yes, of course, it‘s important to reflect sometimes and all these difficult situations are probably also a reason, why we tend to do it more often! I am sorry for your sister. I didn‘t get your comment on my post with the book titles you propose ! I‘m very ☹️ I hope you enjoyed your trip!!
My brother just called me back, she died a few minutes ago, she now may rest in peace. I will try to send you the links of the books, but maybe the links you did not get them, will see, otherwise will post them here.
I‘m sorry for your loss, Brogido, but this shows us that we have to enjoy every happy moment left to us!
Thank you for your condolences Martina, yes dying its our lot as humans, and that is the way it is. She was just 67 and a year an a half, or so younger than me, I have two brothers, the youngest one her twin, but they were two ovular twins, so they are totally different in looks, but they were very close, so far he doesn’t answer his phone.
I very much hope that you will soon be able to talk to your brother, which I am sure, will do you both much good.
I did it already thank you Martina.
👏🌺
So funny that you wrote this piece just now. I’m dealing with my stepson and a situation where I really need to forgive him for something…but I guess my ego is keeping my higher self from getting there. But I’ll get there. Soon. 🙂
Well forgiving it’s a process, and it may take some time, for you to do that.
It’s hard to forgive when the events are recent, and we are still dealing with anger, or despair, about something, its funny to reflect our worst blunders teach us the greatest lessons, and I will not be, who I am now, if not for those mistakes, I even coined a phrase years ago:
“In the Spiritual Realm we gain by losing, the opposite from the material World, we live in.”
And you can quote me on that one!😉
I WILL quote you on that one. That’s a good one!
Awesome post written from the heart.
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Wow. Great use of bold font here and what a touching post😫. God continue to bless your writing it’s touching hearts it has just touched mine🙌🙌
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Excellent line… God knows what they do who don’t believe in God….. very inspiring post…. Thank you!
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Just saw this passage posted online and it brought to mind the recent words of your blog about reminiscing old memories and past , etc. I thought it relative & apropos..
“Why do ww cling to memories so much?
Is it because we have the sense that
the present is incomplete?
Why go to past or future? Or even present!
Is there not something even more alive than time?
As you come to verify this, spontaneously
you will discover that you are the timeless One.”
~ Mooji
Who else, other than the Timeless One, we can be?
When there’s no two. 😉
These days I’m also having regrets about mistakes and errors, sometimes things I did without thinking. In the past I used to run away from such thoughts and go and travel more (and sometimes make more mistakes on my travels), but now I’m just allowing the thoughts and then reflect on the reality of humanity. None of us are perfect. We just pass through here and we do our best much of the time, but not always. Mistakes are also necessary, but if we can honestly reflect upon them even after a very long time, then I would say that we are doing okay. As long as we sometimes also reflect upon our worth and our value (and values) and successes – but not too much! 😉
“To have a conscience it’s good, but it would had being better not to acquire it after the fact from our mistakes.” – This made me smile, because I can relate – but when we are young (and a bit, or very … stupid) I think we can be excused, because when we are a youth we just want enjoy life and the ego drives us. Of course it’s possible that sometimes we make calculated mistakes even when we are older. Mistakes can be made for various reasons; resentment, anger, selfishness, also ego, and then we only think about us in the moment, not considering the other person. Most people can be really difficult sometimes (also me, I know it).
I agree that there is forgiveness in the world and we can hope that we were forgiven. Sometimes we have to learn to forgive ourselves – several times over, if necessary – because the guilt can come back on occasion. I have also learned that even by trying to walk the most exemplary and straight path can lead to more mistakes and even problems for others. It can be difficult to keep the balance, but reflecting upon it helps and trying better.
Thank you for sharing your (thought-provoking) thoughts and especially the prayer in the end.
Wishing you a very good day and week, Mr Anaya.
Jean-Jacques
Thank you for your great comment, I agree wholeheartedly to it, I will add we are born knowing nothing, and life itself is the school where we come to learn who we are, and learn through trial, an error, and its a long process, until we acquire a modicum of wisdom, some very little, if any.
If we live a long life we learn many lessons, and try hard to be good students of life, on the end, we may reach a point where at least we are able to stay somewhat out of trouble, and in peace within ourselves, although there may be mistakes we will never be able to fix, however we will not repeat them again.
And that will be the sum of our wisdom, to reach old age with some regrets, but in peace with ourselves.
My best wishes to you Jean-Jacques.
Thank you!
Excellent summary, Mr Anaya! Thank YOU!
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Thank you Craig!
I always look at this subject this way: being along or feeling lonely. To be honest, I quite like being alone. Thanks to many never ending things I have to do, there’s no time to feel lonely.
I think, you’d agree, we can fill our time with so much that there’s no space for going nuts and being upset just because you have to be alone. I know some people cannot take it, and it’s tough.
However, most of our life we are just that: one and alone. Since nobody else can experience exactly the same and in exactly in the same way.
All the best!
Damn, this is a beautiful post. “To have a conscience it’s good, but it would have to be better not to acquire it after the fact from our mistakes.” Sadly, I think this hits home to a lot of people. The idea of forgiveness is complicated and confusing, but coming at it from the purest form of humanity, which you do in this post, it is the only pure thing that can help us all. Far too many differences in life (culture, gender, etc…) make it impossible for us to understand ‘the other side of the story,’ and the only answer is forgiveness. Forgiveness for what we’ve done wrong, even if we do not know what it was (and may never be able to understand). I guess this applies to my ex-wife and me; we see life from two different vantage points, and in some cases, understanding is impossible – and this is where forgiveness would have helped (whether it was me asking or her). Well written – simply beautiful.
Honesty with ourselves, it’s the only thing that can help us to recognize our mistakes and try to amend them if possible, unfortunately after the damage it’s done is hard to repair, and we may be able to apologize or not, depending on the circumstances, and even that may not be on our hands to do depending the many obstacles on our way to reach harmony, and the character those you injure, which we have no control over. 🤷♂️
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Thank you